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As a parent, I know
that delicate balance between letting kids explore and keeping them safe. It can be a dangerous world. A responsible parent can't disregard the hazards, even as we gradually expand kids' boundaries.
Playing in nature definitely presents a list of potential hazards, from
sunburn to
tick-borne illnesses (a
particularly knotty problem this year!),
animal bites,
falls . . . a worried parent could go mad. I believe
it's important to remember that our primary job as parents is to render ourselves unnecessary--to rear independent persons who are as healthy and well-adjusted as possible,
equipped with the skills and judgment needed to succeed as fully-functioning adults.
But achieving that goal requires that they
stay alive long enough to
become adults.
So, where do we draw the line? And how do we adjust appropriately--
because that line always keeps changing! Developmental stages flash by so fast, we have to work, to stay on top of "what's developmentally appropriate
today?" I managed (with a lot of help) to shepherd two reasonably-functional human beings into adulthood, and
for me the key always seemed to be information.
I have
yet to meet the child who responds positively to "because I say so!" And they're RIGHT. That's an extremely unhelpful answer.
As appropriate for the developmental level, I always
tried to take the time to explain to the child why certain restrictions had to apply, if I possibly could. Granted, sometimes there's no time. But that meant we needed a follow-up conversation. I discovered even the youngest child has
the capability to be a rational human being (to the extent that someone can be, at any given stage of development). If we want them to grow into that capability as adults, we must
treat them accordingly when they're kids.
As appropriate for their age, that means
teaching kids how to prevent their own bad outcomes (wear sunscreen and bug repellent; know basic safety principles about approaching animals or walking on rotten branches or uneven terrain).
They may ignore it, but at least they'll know why it happened, if they do.
It helps to remember the favorite saying of a friend of mine:
"Good judgment comes from experience. Experience comes from bad judgment." Giving them wide enough boundaries to explore and "push their envelope" means sometimes there'll be unfortunate results. That's why
it's just as important to teach them what do do if something does happen. There's no emergency situation that can't be
made worse by the victim's panic! The goal is not to terrify them,
but to empower them.
It isn't easy, but it's worth the effort.
IMAGE: Many thanks to Citypages (Minneapolis, MN) for this image! (no info available, on who's the photographer).